Man Doesn’t Understand Why Wife Is Upset With Ex Baking, Shopping For Him

While it’s always nice to see exes get along, this man may get along a bit too well with his ex, and it’s causing problems with his new spouse. 

A man shares on Reddit that he and his ex-wife parted ways amicably about five years ago but they are still close and he considers her one of his “best friends.” They have kids together so they try to do a lot of activities together and says they have an “open door policy” where she can pop by his house for any reason, and she even has a key. As part of the arrangement, the ex-wife will bake for him and occasionally do him favors, including shopping for him, and the whole thing is becoming a major issue with the guy’s second wife. 

The OP explains that has been married to his second wife for about a year and while his new wife knew about his relationship with his ex before they were married it’s now causing some major drama. He says his new wife initially respected his relationship with the ex but she’s now become “irritated.” He says he’s “puzzled” by her reaction since she doesn’t like to bake and doesn’t know how to shop for him, and can’t see why it’s an issue the ex does those things for him.

He says she also has a problem with the open door policy, and “would like to see it curbed.” He adds that her only real argument for wanting to change things is that she is “feeling crowded” and he wonders if he’s really in the wrong here. 

  • As you can imagine, most people agree that he is.
    • “You don’t even want to see her point in this,” one person shared. “You aren’t just coparenting and you aren’t just friends,” adding, “And I can totally see how and why she’d feel like essentially there are 3 people in the relationship.”
    • As for the shopping and baking, on person shared, “It sounds like he thinks if his current wife doesn’t do it, then he’ll just make sure to have another wife who would!” noting, “Also why can’t you shop for your own clothes?”
    • “Ultimately, your wife is telling you that these are the boundaries she mentioned not wanting crossed,” another commenter wrote. “It isn’t your house alone, it is your house and also your current wife’s house. If she doesn’t want your ex having a key, your ex wouldn’t have a key.” 

Source:Little Things


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