If you’ve ever been in an on-again, off-again relationship, you know that they are as tough to quit as they are emotionally exhausting. But if you’re stuck in the cycle now, and you feel like it would be healthier for you to end it, here’s some ways experts say you can finally break out.
- Get A Little Help From Your Friends.If you’ve been doing the on-and-off thing for a while, it’s a guarantee that your friends have opinions about it. Ask them to be honest with you about what they think and enlist their help. Relationship coachAnna Morgensternsays a close friend can help keep you accountable. You might be ok with letting yourself down by sneaking back into your ex’s DMs, but you might not want to let down your bestie.
- “Delete” Everything That Reminds You Of Them.If you’re currently in the off-again portion of the toxic relationship, do yourself a favor and delete all those grams of you two together. Morgenstern says “you have to make a clean break.” Delete their number, unfriend, unfollow, and clean out your photo gallery. Make room in your phone for someone that plans to stick around instead.
- Take Ownership Of Your Mistakes Without Judgment.The most productive thing you can do in the downswing of a romance is to accept your own fault and grow emotionally. Relationship coachJill Sherer Murraysays that mean taking “an honest, but non-judgmental account of our role in the relationship and owning our mistakes.” According to her, it’s the best way to avoid making the same mistakes in the future.
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Source:Bustle