Lots of singles are searching for their Mr. or Mrs. Right, but it may be less about who you’re with and more about the dynamic you have with them. A newstudyout this week looks at what makes relationships successful, analyzing information from more than 11-thousand couples that were tracked for an average of a year to figure out how to predict the quality of relationships.
What they found is that your own judgement of your relationship - as in how satisfied you feel your partner is or how appreciative you are of your partner - says more about the quality of your relationship than your personalities do.Samantha Joel,the study’s lead author, explains, “When it comes to a satisfying relationship, the partnership you build is more important than the partner you pick.”
The researchers point out that factors like your personality and whether or not you experience depression or anxiety could affect the quality of your relationship, they say building a relationship that you’re satisfied and secure with could outweigh those things. So what does this mean for your dating life? Try not to focus so much on whether someone checks all your boxes or is your type, instead pay attention to the dynamics of the relationship and how it makes you feel.