Each year when Match.com comes out with their Singles in America survey, we get a little insider information about the thoughts and feelings of single people. One takeaway from this yearâs numbers: over half of women - 54% - feel dating burnout from searching. And itâs easy to understand how someone could just be over it after spending so much time doing it and not making good connections with people.
Marriage and family therapist David Klow says dating is harder now than ever before. âWe are looking for a partner, friend, lover, companion, potential co-parent,â he explains. âEven a co-CEO of a potential family. In previous times, our expectations in love and marriage were much lower.â
So how can you tell if youâre just frustrated with dating or if youâve crossed into âburnout territory?â Klow says some signs are if youâre cancelling dates last minute, having the same conversations repeatedly with dates, or donât feel excited to go out with new people anymore. And if youâve been looking for love for a while and havenât found someone, youâre more likely to be overwhelmed by the whole process.
And when you realize youâre burned out, Klow says the best thing you can do is take a break. Stop dating and appreciate what you already have in your life instead of focusing on whatâs missing. Then he advises going to new places or sites to meet new people to keep it fresh. Or you could make a bucket list of fun stuff you want to do and just invite your date along, so if itâs a dud, at least you had fun doing something you really wanted to try.
Source: Glamour