The early days of a new relationship are so fun and exciting, we just can’t get enough of the butterflies in your tummy feelings. And that’s why we want to spend all of our time with this new person who makes us feel so good and glowy. But too much of a good thing isn’t always the best thing, especially when it comes to dating someone new.
So before you start ditching Sunday yoga with your besties and Thursday happy hours with your coworkers so you can see more of your new boo, consider this: experts suggest you should only be seeing someone you’re newly dating once a week. That may sound crazy when you’re head-over-heels and all you want to do is be with your new person, but keeping your regular routine going is important for you and your new relationship.
The “one date a week” rule can help you avoid the problems that crop up when you start skipping out on plans with friends and family to hang with your new love interest. It keeps you from jeopardizing your existing relationships and lets the new romance develop at a slower pace, which can help you spot red flags you might otherwise miss.
TherapistJennifer Silversheinpoints out that limiting dates to once a week also helps soften the blow if things don’t work out because you won’t have as much invested. Plus, it leaves you wanting more every time, so it’s that much more exciting when you do see each other. Eventually, you’ll be ready to move past once a week hangs, but at the beginning, let the new person in your life be a part of your life, not take up the whole thing.